Sonder
At the supermarket
I find them—
small moments of recognition
tucked between aisles.
A man marked by a stroke,
his words softened at the edges,
his wife watching
as I stay just a little longer
than I need to.
He smiles.
She softens.
I saw him.
He mattered.
That trolley of soft drinks—
we meet again,
and again,
and again.
A small joke carried
across aisles.
He notices.
I notice.
For a moment,
we exist in each other’s day.
He mattered.
The staff member
who knows my face
just enough
for a smile to land
and be returned.
Nothing more.
Enough.
They matter.
The woman with the glasses—
a passing comment
about how busy it is.
Later,
as I leave—
“I survived.”
“Well done.”
A shared moment
that disappears
as quickly as it came.
She mattered.
We teach this word—
sonder—
the knowing
that every person
moves through a life
as full as our own.
I see it everywhere.
I feel it
in the way I turn toward them,
in the way I hold
these small exchanges
as if they are something.
Because they are.
And then—
I leave.
The trolley empty.
The car unlocked.
The day continuing
as it always does.
And I wonder,
quietly,
without asking it out loud—
does anyone
move through their day
and pause,
even for a moment,
because of me?
Do I matter
in the way they did
to me?
